Foreplay: Everyone needs it. So Why You Just Can't Ignore It

Foreplay: Everyone needs it. So Why You Just Can't Ignore It

March 16, 2020

Foreplay should be the forefront of sexual bliss, all too often, couples forgo the art of foreplay in favour of racing ahead to intercourse, and in doing so, they’re setting themselves up for failure. Much like a prologue to a novel, foreplay lays the groundwork for the story ahead, giving a taste of what’s to come.

Everyone should bother with foreplay?

It helps build up the sexual tension and arousal. But don’t make the mistake of rushing from sensuality to intercourse. Foreplay is a bad name because it sounds like something you start doing and then stop doing. Moving too quickly often ruins the moment. It's seduction,  touching the body. It's eroticism at its finest, and should being something that goes on throughout lovemaking.

The biggest complaint women make is that their partners jump to the genitals right away and ignore the face, the neck, the earlobes and just about anything else. Savour the whole body. The more time you spend doing this delicate dance of seduction, the more rewarding the final act will be.

 

What are some ways you can give your partner  outstanding foreplay?

 

Get dressed up, go out for dinner. Talk sexy to one another. Give a detailed description of what you’d like to do to each other and allow the anticipation to grow as you count down the minutes until you arrive home.Offer your partner a sexy striptease or an erotic massage. A massage can be quite titillating, invigorating the senses. Warm up some massage oil, pour a small amount down the back of your lover. Slowly rub it into their skin, feeling each muscle. Allow your fingers to trace over them, maybe even sliding down between their legs, but don’t touch the erogenous zones. Let the stimulation of the other aspects of the body build the desire.

For those feeling brave, vibrating panties are a thrilling option to wear on a night out. Want to involve your partner? Give them the remote control so they control when the panties start humming. In the bedroom blindfolds, though simple, seem to be a favourite pastime for building erotic desires. By concealing vision, you allow the other senses to be heightened.

A vibrator at just the right frequency can also provide a much needed boost when it comes to foreplay. Tease your partner by turning it on and off as you use it on them. Or better yet, use it on yourself and put on a show for your other half. The intensity of the voyeuristic display will heighten both yours and your partner’s desire.

It's also important to give your partner feedback in the moment. Make approving noises if you like what they’re doing. Say “Ooh that feels good” when it does, and don’t be afraid to speak up when something isn’t quite working for you. Your partner is not a mind-reader; they aren’t going to know if they’re too rough, missing the mark, or just not getting you there without some guidance.

Bottom line: Foreplay is just as important as sex itself, if not more so. It helps create a closeness while building up sexual tension and arousal. At the end of the day, you want to desire your partner, and you want your partner to desire you, so stop beating around the bush. Go ahead, get your foreplay on right now wherever you are.